I vow to never engage in correspondence identical or similar to the below:
Ignorant Person (IP): You’re married?!?!
I answered this question like two months ago.
Infertile (IF): Yes, I am!
IP: I didn’t know that …
Yes, you did.
… How long have you been married?
IF: Three years. Here it comes …
IP: Any kids yet?
IF: Nope, not yet.
IP: But three years … Are you planning?
Are you serious?
IF: Oh yea … We’re planning.
IP: Yea, so when?
IF: Well, we’re having trouble.
IP: Oh (shakes head and offers a “That’s nonsense.” gesture). How old are you?
IP: Oh you’ve got plenty of time.
Clearly, since the age of my eggs don’t matter anyway. I could be 45 for all you know.
IF: Yea, well we’ve been trying since we got married, so …
IP: Repeat – Oh, you’ve got plenty of time.
Lady, it’s been three years.
IF: Yea, it’s clearly a medical issue.
I don’t expect them to know because how could they? But everyone says the same thing. Oh, you’re young. People, that means nothing a lot of the time. Most of my TTC sisters are well within child-bearing years. Actually all of them are. It’s not always an age-related issue. There’s a problem.
I mean, you interrogate me. I get it. Babies and pregnancy and all that stuff are exciting topics. But, if you keep asking question … after question … after question, you’re going to get a load of information one of these days.
Do you REALLY want to know? It is THAT serious?
I just wonder what these people would say, what their faces would look like if I dropped some knowledge on them.